Another Challenges Ahead

Many people would give me positive remarks like "Good" or "Senang-lah" when they came to know Daniel is a Catholic. Yes, things will be much easier if both partners are sharing the same faith. But after 3 years of us together, we do encounter faith issues and usually it's more of a disappointment feeling. Sharing the same faith does have issues as well - I'm seeing another challenges ahead.

I'm not comparing whose faith is stronger or weaker, just that both Daniel and I have our own point of view and we were brought from different family background and values. For me, we were brought up doing almost everything together as a family. We have family prayers each night before we go to bed, my parents will encourage us to take part in church camps and participating services in church and also to attend most of masses held other than Sunday masses. I’m not a good Catholic but I’m trying to be responsible and to keep my faith.

Daniel in the other way has his own point of view. He is a little so called antisocial where he does not really like to participate in any services team in the church. He is more a likely Sunday goer. At certain point, I do agree with him that everything you do must come from the heart. If one does not have the heart for God, then it will be meaningless being in church when your heart is not there.

I’m not good at describing my intention and feelings here but for me, I want to spare my time for God by attending Sunday Masses and also any Obligation day. I feel that this is the least I could do as a Catholic and I make effort and allocate time for it.

It always comes to a disappointment when Daniel would not follow me to attend other church activities or obligation masses. I’ve always think all Catholics would participate but I was wrong.

I can’t understand how one party continues its faith life alone despite having a partner but with different faith / religion. How these single partner brought up their children in a Catholic way.. Faith comes from family and I can’t imagine how to sustain my momentum and to bring up a Christ centred family if we as parents are not the right role model for them? He assured me that he does not mean that he will forever just a Sunday mass goer. I do pray that through me that he might change for our future sake.